Showing posts with label Success. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Success. Show all posts

Saturday, November 24, 2018

How To Overcome: The Classic Carrot, Egg, and Bean Coffee Story



You may never look at a cup of coffee the same way again!

A young woman told her mother how difficult things were for her.

She did not know how she was going to make it and felt like giving up.

Her mother took her to the kitchen and filled three pots with water. Soon the water started
boiling. In the first pot, she placed carrots. In the second, she put eggs. And in the third, she
placed coffee beans. She let them sit and boil.

In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them
on a plate. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and
placed it in a mug.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “What do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” her daughter replied.

Her mother handed her some carrots. They were soft.

The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed that the egg was now hard boiled.

Then the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich
aroma.

Then the daughter asked, “What does all this mean?”

Her mother said that each of these had faced the same adversity—boiling water. But each reacted
differently.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you
respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose
my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with an open heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit,
but after a death, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened
and stiff?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water — the very circumstance
that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like
the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another
level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Donkey In The Well: A Classic Short Motivational Story



Once upon a time, there was a little donkey that lived on a ranch. The little donkey spent all of
his time in a pen with his grandfather. One day, the little donkey said, “Grandpa, I want to grow
up to be big and strong like you.

What do I have to do?”

Grandpa said, “All you have to do is learn how to shake it off and step up.”

That confused the little donkey so he asked his grandfather what that meant.

Grandpa said, “Let me tell you a classic short motivational story! One day, when I was just about
your age, I was right here in this pen when someone left the gate open by mistake. Well, I
escaped and started walking out on the prairie. I was admiring the big mountains and the huge
sky.

Then, all of a sudden, when I wasn’t looking at where I was going, I fell into an old, abandoned
well. I was trapped at the bottom of the well, scared to death, thinking I was going to die. I was
the donkey in the well. Then, within a few minutes, I heard a truck and looked up and saw an old
farmer. I thought he would surely save me. But he just looked down at me, shook his head, got
back into his truck, and left.

“A few hours later, I heard what sounded like four or five trucks. I looked up and saw the farmer
and several of his friends. The old farmer said, ‘Boys, the well’s abandoned and that little
donkey ain’t worth anything, so let’s get to work.’

“They got their pick axes and shovels and started burying me alive. Now I knew I was going to
die! The dirt started burying my hooves and then it started covering my lower legs and then I
suddenly realised something — every time a shovel-full of dirt landed on my back, I could shake
it off and step up on it. So I shook it off and stepped up, and shook it off and stepped up, and I
continued shaking and stepping, and shaking and stepping, until I eventually shook off enough
and stepped up enough that I was able to step out of the well and save my life!”

Then the grandfather looked right at the little donkey and said,

“Remember, if you want to grow up to be big and strong, you have to learn how to shake it off
and step up.” 

Nails In The Fence: A Story About Anger



There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.

His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper,
he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned
to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He
discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and
the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his
temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

He said, ‘You’ve done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be
the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.

You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m
sorry, the wound is still there and a verbal wound is just as bad as a physical one. 

The Fox and the Grapes


One afternoon, a fox was walking through the forest and spotted a bunch of grapes hanging from a lofty branch.

“Just the thing to quench my thirst,” he thought.

Taking a couple of steps back, the fox jumped and just missed the hanging grapes. The fox tried again but still failed to reach them.

Finally, giving up, the fox turned his nose up and said, “They’re probably sour anyway,” and walked away.

Moral of the story: It’s easy to despise what you can't have.

Two Friends and the Bear



Vijay and Raju were friends. One day while on holiday, exploring a forest, they saw a bear coming towards them.

Naturally, they were both frightened, so Raju, who knew how to climb trees, climbed one quickly. He didn’t spare a thought for his friend who had no idea how to climb.

Vijay thought for a moment. He had heard that animals don’t attack dead bodies, so he fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him, thought he was dead, and went on its way.

Raju, after he had climbed down from the tree asked Vijay, “What did the bear whisper in your ears?”

Vijay replied, “The bear asked me to keep away from friends like you.”

Moral of the story: A friend in need is a friend indeed.

The Greedy Lion


It was an incredibly hot day and a lion was feeling very hungry.

He crawled out of his den and searched here and there, but he could only find a small hare. He caught the hare, but with some hesitation as he knew the hare wouldn’t fill him up.

As the lion was about to kill the hare, he spotted a deer coming his way and thought, “Instead of eating this small hare, let me eat that big deer.”

So he let the hare go and went after the deer, but it vanished in the forest. The lion now had nothing to eat as the hare was also long gone.

Moral of the story: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

Having a Best Friend



Two friends were walking through the desert. At one stage in their journey, they had an argument and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything he wrote in the sand, “Today my best friend slapped me in the face.”

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to have a wash. The one who had been slapped got stuck in a mire and started drowning, but his friend saved him. After he had recovered from his shock, he wrote on a stone, “Today my best friend saved my life.”

The friend who slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write in stone, why?”

The other friend replied, “When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”

Moral of the story: Don’t value the things you have in your life. Value those who you have in your life.

The Wise Man



People visit a wise man complaining about the same problems over and over again. One day, he decided to tell them a joke and they all roared with laughter.

After a few minutes, he told them the same joke and only a few of them smiled.

Then he told the same joke for a third time, but no one laughed or smiled anymore.

The wise man smiled and said: “You can’t laugh at the same joke over and over. So why are you always crying about the same problem?”

Moral of the story: Worrying won’t solve your problems, it’ll just waste your time and energy.

An Old Man Lived in the Village


An old man lived in the village. The whole village was tired of him; he was always gloomy, he constantly complained and was always in a bad mood. The longer he lived, the viler he became and more poisonous were his words. People did their best to avoid him because his misfortune was contagious. He created the feeling of unhappiness in others.

But one day, when he turned eighty, an incredible thing happened. Instantly everyone started hearing the rumour: “The old man is happy today, he doesn’t complain about anything, smiles, and even his face is freshened up.”

The whole village gathered around the man and asked him, “What happened to you?”

The old man replied, “Nothing special. Eighty years I’ve been chasing happiness and it was useless. And then I decided to live without happiness and just enjoy life. That’s why I’m happy now.”

Moral of the story: Don’t chase happiness. Enjoy your life.

Box Full of Kisses


Some time ago, a man punished his young daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became angry when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.

Nevertheless, the girl brought the gift to her father on Christmas day and said, “This is for you, daddy.”

The man became embarrassed by his overreaction a few days before, but his rage continued when he saw that the box was empty. He yelled at her, “Don’t you know, when you give someone a gift, there’s supposed to be something inside?”

The little girl looked up at her dad with tears in her eyes and cried; “Oh, daddy, it’s not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They’re all for you, daddy.”

The father was devastated. He put his arms around his daughter, and begged for her forgiveness.

A little while later, the girl died in an accident. Her father kept the gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was feeling down, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

Moral of the story: Love is the most precious gift in the world.

The Blind Girl



There once was a blind woman who hated herself purely because she could not see. The only person she loved was her boyfriend, as he was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, then she would marry him.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her – now she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her loving boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”

The woman was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and wrote a short note to her saying: “Just take care of my eyes, dear.”

Moral of the story: When our circumstances change, so does our mind. Some people may not be able to see the way things were before, and might not be able to appreciate them.

The Butterfly


Once upon a time, a man found a butterfly that was starting to hatch from its cocoon. He sat down and watched the butterfly for hours as it struggled to force itself through a tiny hole. Then, it suddenly stopped making progress and looked like it was stuck.

Therefore, the man decided to help the butterfly out. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shrivelled wings.

The man thought nothing of it, and he sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. However, that never happened. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with small wings and a swollen body.

Despite the man’s kind heart, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small hole were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was free.

Moral of the story: Our struggles in life help to develop our strengths. Without struggles, we never grow and get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not rely on help from others all the time.

The Obstacle in Our Path



In ancient times, a king had his men place a boulder on a roadway. He then hid in the bushes, and watched to see if anyone would move the boulder out of the way. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers passed by and simply walked around it.

Many people blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none of them did anything about getting the stone removed.

One day, a peasant came along carrying vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to push the stone out of the way. After much pushing and straining, he finally managed.

After the peasant went back to pick up his vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and note from the King explain that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the road.

Moral of the story: Every obstacle that we come across gives us an opportunity to improve our circumstances, and while the lazy complain, others are creating opportunities through their kind hearts, generosity, and willingness to get things done.

A Pound of Butter



Once, there was a farmer who regularly sold butter to a baker. One day, the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting the exact amount that he asked for. He found out that he wasn’t, so he took the farmer to court.
The judge asked the farmer if he uses any measure to weigh the butter. The farmer replied, “Your Honor, I’m primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale.”
The judge replied, “Then how do you weigh the butter?”
The farmer replied; “Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day, when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it’s the baker.”
Moral of the story: In life, you get what you give. Don’t try to cheat others.

Friday, August 17, 2018

जब एक छिपकली कर सकती है, तो हम क्यों नहीं



जब एक छिपकली कर सकती है, तो हम क्यों नहीं

[यह जापान में घटी, एक सच्ची घटना है।]

अपने मकान का नवीनीकरण करने के लिये, एक जापानी अपने मकान की दीवारों को तोड़ रहा था। जापान में लकड़ी की दीवारों के बीच ख़ाली जगह होती हैं, यानी दीवारें अंदर से पोली होती हैं।

जब वह लकड़ी की दीवारों को चीर-तोड़ रहा था, तभी उसने देखा कि दीवार के अंदर की तरफ लकड़ी पर एक छिपकली, बाहर से उसके पैर पर ठुकी कील के कारण, एक ही जगह पर जमी पड़ी है।

जब उसने यह दृश्य देखा तो उसे बहुत दया आई पर साथ ही वह जिज्ञासु भी हो गया। जब उसने आगे जाँच की तो पाया कि वह कील तो उसके मकान बनते समय पाँच साल पहले ठोंका गई थी!

एक छिपकली इस स्थिति में पाँच साल तक जीवित थी! दीवार के अँधेरे पार्टीशन के बीच, बिना हिले-डुले? यह अविश्वसनीय, असंभव और चौंका देने वाला था!

उसकी समझ से यह परे था कि एक छिपकली, जिसका एक पैर, एक ही स्थान पर पिछले पाँच साल से कील के कारण चिपका हुआ था और जो अपनी जगह से एक इंच भी न हिली थी, वह कैसे जीवित रह सकती है?

अब उसने यह देखने के लिये कि वह छिपकली अब तक क्या करती रही है और कैसे अपने भोजन की जरुरत को पूरा करती रही है, अपना काम रोक दिया।

थोड़ी ही देर बाद, पता नहीं कहाँ से, एक दूसरी छिपकली प्रकट हुई, वह अपने मुँह में भोजन दबाये हुये थी - उस फँसी हुई छिपकली को खिलाने के लिये! उफ़्फ़! वह सन्न रह गया! यह दृश्य उसके दिल को अंदर तक छू गया!

एक छिपकली, जिसका एक पैर कील से ठुका हुआ था, को, एक दूसरी छिपकली पिछले पाँच साल से भोजन खिला रही थी!

अद्भुत! दूसरी छिपकली ने अपने साथी के बचने की उम्मीद नहीं छोड़ी थी, वह पहली छिपकली को पिछले पाँच साल से भोजन करवा रही थी।

अजीब है, एक छोटा-सा जंतु तो यह कर सकता है, पर हम मनुष्य जैसे प्राणी, जिसे बुद्धि में सर्वश्रेष्ठ होने का आशीर्वाद मिला हुआ है, नहीं कर सकता!

कृपया अपने प्रिय लोगों को कभी न छोड़ें!  लोगों को उनकी तकलीफ़ के समय अपनी पीठ न दिखायें! अपने आप को महाज्ञानी या सर्वश्रेष्ठ समझने की भूल न करें! आज आप सौभाग्यशाली हो सकते हैं पर कल तो अनिश्चित ही है और कल चीज़ें बदल भी सकती हैं!

प्रकृति ने हमारी अंगुलियों के बीच शायद जगह भी इसीलिये दी है ताकि हम किसी दूसरे का हाथ थाम सकें!

आप आज किसी का साथ दीजिये, कल कोई-न-कोई दूसरा आपको साथ दे देगा!

धर्म चाहे जो भी हो बस अच्छे इंसान बनो,हिसाब  हमारे कर्म का होगा धर्म का नहीं.

Tuesday, July 17, 2018

सुख और दुख की परिभाषा



ऐ "सुख" तू कहाँ मिलता है..
क्या तेरा कोई स्थायी पता है..

क्यों बन बैठा है अन्जाना..
आखिर क्या है तेरा ठिकाना..

कहाँ कहाँ नहीं ढूंढा तुझको..
पर तू ना कहीं मिला मुझको..

ढूँढा ऊँचे मकानों में..
बड़ी बड़ी दुकानों में..

स्वादिष्ट पकवानों में..
चोटी के धनवानों में..

वो भी तुझको ढूंढ रहे थे..
बल्कि मुझको ही पूछ रहे थे..

क्या आपको कुछ पता है..
ये सुख आखिर कहाँ रहता है?

मेरे पास तो "दुःख" का पता था..
जो सुबह शाम अक्सर मिलता था..

परेशान होके रपट लिखवाई..
पर ये कोशिश भी काम न आई..

उम्र अब ढलान पे है..
हौसले थकान पे है..

हाँ उसकी तस्वीर है मेरे पास..
अब भी बची हुई है आस..

मैं भी हार नही मानूंगा..
सुख के रहस्य को जानूंगा..

बचपन में मिला करता था..
मेरे साथ रहा करता था..

पर जबसे मैं बड़ा हो गया..
मेरा सुख मुझसे जुदा हो गया..

मैं फिर भी नही हुआ हताश..
जारी रखी उसकी तलाश..

एक दिन जब आवाज ये आई..
क्या मुझको ढूंढ रहा है भाई..

मैं तेरे अन्दर छुपा हुआ हूँ..
तेरे ही घर में बसा हुआ हूँ..

मेरा नही है कुछ भी "मोल"..
सिक्कों में मुझको ना तोल..

मैं बच्चों की मुस्कानों में हूँ..
हारमोनियम की तानों में हूँ..

पत्नी के साथ चाय पीने में..
"परिवार" के संग जीने में..

माँ बाप के आशीर्वाद में..
रसोई घर के पकवानो में..

बच्चों की सफलता में हूँ..
माँ की निश्छल ममता में हूँ..

हर पल तेरे संग रहता हूँ..
और अक्सर तुझसे कहता हूँ..

मैं तो हूँ बस एक "अहसास"..
बंद कर दे तु मेरी तलाश..

जो मिला उसी में कर "संतोष"..
आज को जी ले, कल की न सोच..

कल के लिए आज को ना खोना..

मेरे लिए कभी दुखी ना होना..
मेरे लिए कभी दुखी ना होना..

Saturday, July 7, 2018

Surprise Test - A Short Inspirational Story

Surprise Test



एक प्रोफ़ेसर अपनी क्लास में आते ही बोले,
........“चलिए,आज आप सभी का Surprise Test हो जाय।"
सुनते ही घबराहट फैल गई Students में!
कुछ किताबों के पन्ने पलटने लगे तो कुछ लगे पढ़ने सर के दिए नोट्स।
“ये सब कुछ काम नहीं आएगा….”, प्रोफेसर साहब मुस्कुराते हुए बोले, Question Paper
.............रख रहा हूँ आपके सामने, जब सारे पेपर बट जाएं तभी आप उसे पलट कर देखें।"
बाँट दिए गए पेपर्स सभी Students को।
“ठीक है ! अब आप पेपर देख सकते हैं।"बोले प्रोफेसर साहब।
अगले ही क्षण सभी Question Paper को निहार रहे थे,
लेकिन यह क्या?* .............कोई प्रश्न था ही नहीं उस पेपर में !
था तो *White* पेपर पर केवल एक Black स्पॉट⚫
"यह क्या सर? इसमें तो Question* है ही नहीं!", एक छात्र खड़ा होकर बोला ।
“जो भी है आपके सामने है। आपको बस इसी को Explain करना है।लेकिन!ध्यान रहे इसके लिए आपके पास केवल 10 मिनट ही हैं And your time starts now.
चुटकी बजाते  मुस्कुराते हुए बोले प्रोफेसर।
कोई चारा न था उन हैरान Students के पास।
वे जुट गए उस अजीब से प्रश्न का Answer लिखने में।
10 मिनट बीतते ही प्रोफेसर साहब ने फिर से बजाई चुटकी Time is over. और लगे Answer Sheets collect करने।
Students अभी भी हैरान परेशान।
प्रोफेसर साहब ने सभी Answer Sheets चैक कीं।
सभी ने ⚫ Black स्पॉट ⚫ को अपनी तरह से समझाने की कोशिश की थी, लेकिन किसी ने भी उस स्पॉट के चारों ओर मौजूद *White Space* के बारे में लिखने की जहमत ही नहीं उठाई।
प्रोफ़ेसर साहब गंभीर होते हुए बोले,“इस Test का आपके Academics से कोई लेना-देना नहीं है, ना ही मैं इसके कोई Marks देने वाला हूँ। इस Test के पीछे मेरा एक ही मकसद है..........
...............मैं आपको जीवन की एक अद्भुत सच्चाई बताना चाहता हूँ।
देखिये! यह पेपर 99% White है…...
.........लेकिन आप में से किसी ने भी इसके बारे में नहीं लिखा और अपना 100% Answer केवल उस एक चीज को Explain करने में लगा दिया जो मात्र 1% है….........
.............. यही बात हमारी Life में भी देखने को मिलती है।......…
.............. Problems* हमारे जीवन का एक छोटा सा हिस्सा होती हैं, लेकिन हम अपना पूरा ध्यान इन्हींपर लगा देते हैं….....
...........कोई दिन रात अपने Looks को लेकर परेशान रहता है तो कोई अपने carrier को लेकर चिंता में डूबा रहता है, तो कोई पैसों का रोना रोता रहता है, कोई दूसरे की छोटी सी गलती को अपने दिमाग में रखे रखता है।
क्यों नहीं हम अपनी Blessings Count कर खुश होते हैं….....
..............क्यों नहीं हम पेट भर खाने के लिए उस सर्व शक्तिवान प्रभु को Thanks कहते हैं….......?
क्यों नहीं हम अपनी प्यारी सी फैमिली के लिए शुक्रगुजार होते हैं….....?
क्यों नहीं हम Life की उन 99% चीजों की तरफ ध्यान देते जो सचमुच हमारे जीवन को अच्छा बनाती हैं.........?
क्यों नहीं हम अपने मित्रों सम्बन्धियों की Mistakes को Ignore कर अपने Relations को टूटने से बचाते है..........?
Students प्रोफेसर साहब की दी गई इस सीख से गदगद थे।
आईये आज से ही हम Life की Problems को ज्यादा Seriously लेना छोडें, मित्रों/सम्बन्धियों की Mistakes को भूलें और जीवन की छोटी-छोटी खुशियों को..........
........... ENJOY करना सीखें तभी हम ज़िन्दगी को सही मायने में जी पायेंगे......

Ten Signs Your Boss Is A Manager -- But Not A Leader



A simple way to answer the question "What's the difference between managing and leading?"

Managing people means watching them to make sure they do what they're supposed to do.

The concept of traditional supervision is rooted in the fear that working people will misbehave or make mistakes if someone isn't watching them to make sure they don't.

A manager marches backwards, watching their troops like a hawk in case somebody is marching incorrectly. They cannot look out over the horizon when they're marching backwards!

A leader faces forward and marches confidently, assuming their troops will follow them because they trust their troops and themselves.

Leaders are confident enough to hire people they can trust and let them do whatever they do best with a minimum of oversight.

Managers cannot relax into trust. They are keyed up, judgmental and certain that dire consequences will befall them if they ever let their vigilance flag.

Managerial fear is the great unaddressed workplace topic that sucks vision, creativity, collaboration and profitability from organizations large and small!

It is hard to talk a fearful manager into adopting a confident leader's mindset because to do so the fearful manager would have to gain a level of self-awareness that they do not understand.

Because they sit in fear, they assume everyone is guarded and political the way they are.

They cannot see trust. They believe that without their constant inspection and evaluation, their department would fall to pieces.

We have been so well-trained in the concepts of fear-based management that we do not recognize there is another way to lead. We can lead without reams of policies and rules.

We can lead people by involving them in decision-making and inspiring them to band together to accomplish something cool.

It is a human urge to create and collaborate unless we thwart the urge by rating and ranking people relative to one another and by tying them down with pointless daily and weekly yardsticks.

When we make work a zero-sum game where my triumph is my co-worker's downfall, we are not only cruel but bad business people, also.

Here are 10 signs your boss is a manager — but not a leader.

1. They don't ask for their teammates' opinions before making decisions. They do not dare to share their authority with anyone. They believe their authority to make decisions without asking for input is the source of their power.

2. They do not acknowledge their employees for their effort or accomplishments. They are afraid to thank and recognize their teammates because they need to keep the unequal power relationship intact.

3. They cannot be wrong. Even when everybody knows the manager is wrong, no one will say it because of the force field around the manager. They pretend the manager is not wrong and the manager pretends to believe it, too.

4. They cannot handle dissent or even polite debate.

5. They can only take advice from their subordinates when they are behind closed doors with one person.

6. They do not allow their employees to interact with higher-level managers for fear that a higher-up leader might trust their team member's advice more than their own.

7. They do not stand up for their team members when they could. They will not spend political capital on anyone except themselves.

8. They don't give their teammates visibility into the future, even when it would help the employee and the company to do so. They have taken the adage "Knowledge is power" to heart. They hoard whatever information they acquire, and dole it out in tiny doses.

9. They discount any information or feedback that feels threatening to their political status. When they say "I'll take that idea under advisement" they want to shut you up. They have no intention of considering your idea.

10. They are more concerned about maintaining whatever status, prestige or organizational power they have accumulated than in doing the best thing for the organization.

How do fearful managers keep their jobs? They keep their jobs because they deliver one kind of business result — the numeric kind — for a limited period of time.

They deliver that result by managing through fear.

Over time, a fear-based manager will fail because they have no credibility. No one trusts them.

Fear is a good motivator in the short term but useless over the long term as person after person realizes that the little-tin-god manager has very limited power over them.

If your manager is stuck in fear, your first assignment is to start building an escape hatch.

Life is long, but it's still too short to waste your time and talent working for someone who doesn't deserve you my dear Friends.

Stay Fit, Take Care & Keep Smiling :-)

God Bless !!

Kranti Gaurav
XLRI Jamshedpur

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